Kavod Recovery

To Wives and Partners,

If you have just realized that your spouse or partner has been acting out with sexually compulsive behaviors and suspect he/she may have a sexual addiction here are some things for you to think about or do;

     It’s very important that you understand you are NOT responsible for his acting out.  You are not the cause of his behaviors, you can’t control him or his behaviors and you can’t cure him of his behaviors.  You can get help for yourself and you can be extremely important to his getting help. 

     Although you may feel devastated by your realization there is hope, for you and your spouse.  We at Kavod Addiction Recovery have helped hundreds of individuals, couples and families work towards recovery from this devastating disease.

     Educate yourself about sexual addiction; start by reading any of the Patrick Carnes books i.e. Out of the Shadows.  There are also several books on co-addiction that give the partners perspective of this disease. Jennifer Schneider and Christine Adams are to writers I like.  Check at Amazon.com.  Find a therapist who has knowledge and experience working with sexual addiction and enter into treatment for yourself.   Become knowledgeable about the term co-addiction or co-dependency. 

     If you feel like you are going “crazy” please know that living with an addict feels “crazy making”.  This is due to the manipulation of the addict.  You are not crazy; treatment will help you regain confidence in yourself and your perceptions.

     If you are in the Rochester area call us at Kavod Addiction Recovery Centers  (585-546-5180).  We can assess your situation and recommend treatment options. 

You don’t have to stay in isolation with this devastating disease.  We’re here.

Sincerely,

Jean M. Bahrman, LCSW

Hello Men,

We are putting up this blog for all the men in the Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday groups.  We want you to have the opportunity to engage in a critically important form of communication, writing.  Writing to each other.  Writing is a recovery tool.  Write something each day.  In doing so, you become more visible to yourself and others.  This is a way to be accountable to yourself and others. 

When we are ready, this blog will be visible to just the guys in the groups.   We will be able to have you open to this blog.  Only you and the men in the groups will be able to blog and read the blog.  I will let you know when we are capable of doing this.  Also,  we want you to maintain anonymity.  So close out your entry with a psuedonym. 

Dan Morris

We are Kavod Addiction Recovery Centers. Welcome to our blog.   Our main office is located at 399 Alexander St. in Rochester, NY. We have been helping people with sex addictions for the past 18 years. Our original website went online in 1996.

People often come to us seeking help while in the middle of crisis.  We work to provide an immediate response by seeing you the same day that you call us.

We begin by helping you to decide if you, or someone you know,  has a sex addiction. Treatment starts by learning about the nature of sex addiction. We address the following questions; What is addiction? How do people develop an addiction? What does powerlessness over an addiction mean? How do people effectively cope? What is the nature of recovery? 

We will be there for you as long as you need us. We provide support to the sex addict, their friends and family. We also support other health care practioners, businesses, educational institutions and community organizations. Sex addiction has had a profound effect on our entire community. It is our mission to call attention to this form of addiction, helping organizations and people to get their lives back.

How can you use this blog? Make suggestions for topics or issues that you need help with. We are going to be here, responding to your needs, every day. We look forwards to meeting you.

Sincerely,

Daniel Morris, LCSW
Clinical Director of Kavod Addiction Recovery Centers